A fucking doormat. Needs to pay a penalty for the massive inconvenience to the 2 of you of say: $20K over next 2 years. If he truly loved you, he would want to take that burden away from your family and show them how much he loves you. Why does he want to protect someone that is actively ruining him? Your bf sounds like a patsy that the cousin would know is an easy victim. In the beginning it didn't bother me. My apologies.. Even with a decent credit score, what's the collateral? Find someone who is as motivated and up to your level instead of someone who uses/abuses you and your kindness., You can get a better man than him. They lost any right to throw around the family card when they knowingly and willing committed fraud against a family member. NTA. You try to make things work with people you love and care about; you don't hold them up to impossible standards. Really, ask yourself, if your bf isnt prepared to put his foot down now, how will your future look. He was able to get financing for his car by handing over the court paperwork and the police reports when they ran his credit. Your priority will be your progeny and I would hope same would be the case for your partner. I made time to have dates in his lab and at school, etc. The person needs to be held accountable otherwise it will just keep happening. Just the fact that he's making excuses for the person who stole his identity(!!) The family member is probably going through a rough time of their own making. ", "Deeply consider why a man who is so far into his career that he makes $300,000 per year and is about to go up to $500,000 is dating a college senior.". It's wrong for him to expect that you would. Account isnt closed, its still open. I like this 100% NTA. He has to prove it before you even think of looking for another house together or you'll be tied by growing debts to a man who is good-hearted to a fault and is okay with people stealing from him. 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My friend was buying a house with her bf and he could not get a loan as he had a mortgage with his mother on the family home and the mother decided to stop paying her part but did not inform him, only found out. Either way this is going to delay a huge life goal you worked hard for. Last time we chatted, we debated over, "My boyfriend currently makes around $300,000 per year and just received a job offer in a city across the country that would pay him over $500,000 per year with bonuses. There are other guys who know how to stand up for themselves and protect their financial information. All of this except that I wouldnt include the part saying that if he doesnt make the decision OP wants, OP will reevaluate the relationship. You can tell him that buying a house together will impact your credit, and you are not comfortable joining your finances in a major purchase unless he files charges to ensure this never happens again. Lock down your own credit as these people have been near you and your wallet and mail. Let me know in the comments. - Reddit Stories, r/NuclearRevenge | HOW I RUINED MY GIRLFRIENDS CAREER AT A FUNERAL!!! If he chooses to spare his family, then I'd remove myself from the situation and leave. Typically, he'll bypass a handshake and go straight for the hug. The other options include being a liar and/or an idiot. People need to come down hard on family members who betray their trust like this then maybe people will think twice before doing this to their relatives. He's having no empathy for YOU, who is collateral in this mess. Yes very true!! "AITA for not allowing my best friend to crash at my house after his wife died?" This isn't about a friend wearing out his welcomethis redditor's friend is trying to raise a 3-year-old. NTA you are with a partner that has a choice to screw you over or them he chose you. To clear up the matter, I was told I need to charge the person with fraud. Credit card companies are masters at tracking people down when they get behind on payments. Then he loves the cat. Confront family member with the fraud and tell the person: It still sets you back. This story was sad enough for OP already but if the person in question stole the boyfriend's identity to apply for pay day loans, that's even worse than being an unauthorized credit card user. We went to set up finances so we could start building.We were denied.The problem involves fraud on one of my old credit cards, which I thought I had cancelled. He needs to grow a spine and charge this family member with fraud. I would set that up if I were you. I tried to pay for dates and pick up the slack. This comment is a record of the above post as it was originally written, in case the post is deleted or edited. If you are not willing to put our life above disrupting someone who had no compassion or thought for you while doing something very illegal, then I will seriously need to reconsider our future going forward ". In case you're not familiar with Reddit's AITA that's short for Am I The Asshole subreddit, basically all you need to know is that it's full of stories you pray are fake, because they're just so bad.And, more often than not, the original poster (OP) is the asshole in . Bank wont close it until the debt is paid off. "This would amount to around $2,500 per month.". What if the next person this relative scams becomes completely destitute because of this relatives actions? Explaining what happened and giving MIL a prepared response, were she to be contacted, should help her manage the situation without stressing herself emotionally or physically. My credit is perfect Your BF is giving you a preview of your life with him. NTA but should you be buying a house and essentially taking out a loan in the hundreds of thousands value with someone who is fine with having money stolen and being ok with just paying it off to avoid conflict? NTA BF should charge the family member with fraud. What do y'all think about the situation? NTA, I think you should look at it reasonably and practically. I am fine with the idea of moving there, even though it is not my first choice of places to live. I would drop it after a really good discussion. Are you able to get any of that deposit back? So is having children with someone or buying a house, you merge finances (at least to some extent) in all these situations. It's difficult because it is a family member. 2-3 yrs is a long time to wait to start a family at his age. He has the knowledge now. And now OP will also impacted more than this time. If you let this slide, you are only setting yourself up for bigger hurt in the future. His failure to address a serious crime is impacting your lives together. He has said that if we can work out some sort of investment contract where he gets money back, he would consent to paying rent., I think thats ridiculous wherever you live and pay rent, its going toward someones mortgage. Its hard to believe hes never had a credit check before. This would amount to around $2,500 per month.". The father of said baby is the sister's fianc, in case you were wondering if this could get way worse. Think long and hard before making a life here. Help keep the sub engaging! Should I not take advantage of every opportunity I have in order to stay in a relationship with him? My boyfriend is still refusing to open any fraud investigations against his family member . I can absolutely imagine he wont do it, but OP cant spend the rest of their lives threatening a breakup (or someday maybe divorce) if they dont get their way. Reddit rSlash Storytime r amithejerk? NTA but there's another angle: most new businesses fail. He's showing empathy to the relatives who screwed him over with fraud, and is willing to put your future on hold. If they were "family" you would be off limits to injure but it seems like the opposite most times. Is he going to always let people victimize him, his wife, his kids? That will not stand up to them putting your future on hold? Hosted on Acast. If he let's this go, are you also supposed to just accept being taken advantage of by people in the future as well? I don't think he would necessarily be TA for refusing to press charges, but refusing to even confront the problem isreally bad. NTA but you need to take a long, hard look at this relationship. This person has also used my BF identity to apply for pay day loans. Or Don't let thins man drag you down and neglect your future because he doesn't have the spine to stand up for himself. Simple as that. SanoSS7, Your boyfriend is an a**hole, immature and acting entitled. "Really, you should sit, have a discussion about the living standards you both want, how much you can afford, and come to a compromise before you even consider starting to look at places. He wants it to all go away and thinks this family member is going through a rough time. He's being a doormat and has no concern for the fact that his inaction is directly harming you, too. He can't just avoid this, and is basically allowing family to screw the both of you over together with no consequences. Especially yours as it will show that this isnt going to be an easy fix. NTA Ultimately, its only your bfs choice on what to do, but if he picks option 2, id seriously rethink the relationship. Long story short we discovered that a family member that was living with him a few years ago has gotten ahold of the card at some point and has been using the card on and off since 2019. My credit card checks my credit for me,Credit Karma also sends me emails when my score goes up or down by ten points or more. Committing fraud against a family member is even worse than doing it to a stranger. If you dont come to an understanding right now and draw some hard boundaries, you could just resent him in the future. Your boyfriend would rather stunt your lives together than have a confrontation with a thief. The 7 years doesn't start until the last payment is made. It doesn't just effect him, it effects you. We have already put a lock on his credit so no more charges or enquiries can be added to his account. If someone says something dumb once and you don't want to call them out on it, sure. Also place a fraud alert & lock his credit reports so no one else can use his identity. If he does nothing it could cost him more than the house. Hes telling you to your face that he has no interest in helping you provide for the house he is definitely using his fair share of. BriaKhalifa, NTA May I suggest that you dump him and boot his behind out of your house?, What you have there is a classic mooching situation, and he has latched onto you as his sugar mama., He has no intention of doing anything other than sitting on his lazy behind, while eating your food, drinking booze, and playing video games on the internet you pay for. Your bf is being ridiculous and needs to stop being a complete pushover and doormat. Then when this comes to light he doesnt even want to address it with his cousin. He'll always be a doormat. Family will be mad at you but not have same impact as fraud investigation and gives that family member an opportunity to have some restitution. NTA. He isnt even planning on mentioning anything to the family member. NTA - But if your SO doesn't have the will or backbone to fix this properly, what makes you think he'll be the partner you need when there's a crisis? To be fair its not a thing most people check regularly and I wouldnt check my credit either before applying for a loan knowing I have should have good credit. Something is hinkey here and not just the relative. America is big about credit scores, from my experience, especially when it comes to identity theft and fraud. I have folders set up for short and long term saving and have even saved them to an external drive if they are really important and long term. NTA - but I strongly urge you to not take any further steps in this relationship until he's gone to therapy to tackle his avoidance of conflict. They had it coming! Because you said he thought he closed it back in 2019. I fear you have long, uncomfortable, painful conversations ahead of you but you need to have them now and he has to do more than to promise he won't be a doormat in the future. The only way to get it gone is to report fraud to the CC issuer as well as prove he cancelled that card (I hope he kept records. I'm not putting my life on hold for years just because a guy wants to "avoid conflict" with someone who stole from him and ruined his credit. That's extremely fishy! So he is expecting your family to shell out $30,000 just in living expenses for you not counting whatever discretionary spending you may need while he pays less than 10% of his salary on living expenses and has literally hundreds of thousands of dollars to play with and save. Should I model the rest of my education around him? Everyone is different, but I could never imagine not wanting to help my husband in any way possible. 2 weeks ago we fell in love with a house and we put down an initial deposit to hold the property. As she has recently been diagnosed with heart issues and he is worried about putting stress on her because of all of this. You really need to make this point clear to him and if he still doesn't want to press charges you might want to reconsider your relationship. He needs to report it. Youre gonna be awesome! Dump him like yesterday. theDagman. So what? Im sensing you are missing part of the story. NTA, he basically presented his ass to this relative to get ducked over because family. My boyfriend has had zero knowledge of this as he hasnt had access to the account after he closed it, and hasnt been receiving statements or notices from the bank, the family member has diverted these to their address. But if you think that this is a once and done deal and that bf would draw hard boundaries from now and that this is the only trouble-maker in the family, maybe you could handle it. Thats what im thinking too, I am worried we may not be able to work through this as a couple. I always keep transactions codes when verbally dealing with agencies on the phone (I take notes- names, conversation points, amounts, auth/transactions codes- on verbal transactions/disputes on notepad then save them), I take screen shots of online transactions as well as save prints to pdf and I save all mail/email transactions. My boyfriend doesnt like conflict and is going with option 2. We live in Australia, I dont think a credit check for a job is a common thing here. People really want her to consider whether going to a school in the city her boyfriend wants to move to is more important than attending her first choice in graduate schools. Why didn't he check his credit before trying to get a loan? Grow a spine now or forever be someones victim! And honestly, hes just your boyfriend. The mortgage broker also said they would help advocate to the bank as long as they have evidence from police and a letter from the bank stating there is an open fraud investigation. The hell with that. NTA. This person has not just stolen some money from your BF. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1- what action I took- asking him for help 2- the way he reacted is making me question why I might be TA. He has seen that your BF is a wuss who will keep quietly paying off the charges, excuse the behavior and would rather lose his girlfriend, future home, and potential career instead of stopping him. You can read more about the purposes for which we and our partners use cookies and manage your cookie settings by visiting our, r/NuclearRevenge | MY GIRLFRIEND KISSED THE WRONG TWIN! Your boyfriend, on the other hand, is an enormous AH for making sure he stays comfortable at the expense of your emotional security and satisfaction. There might be some underlying issues that he doesnt want to talk about. I've decided to charge this person with fraud. It definitely sucks but this isn't a small thing with minor consequences. I wonder how far he would go to avoid conflict. Your bf is taking being non-confrontational to a crazy level. Are you sure the debt isn't his and he just hid it well? I completely sympathize with not wanting to sell his body as a construction worker, but youre not paying to finance his Wall Street bro dreams., Either he gets a real job and contributes, or you kick him out. Posted on Mar 7, 2022 This Woman Wants To Know If Her Boyfriend Is An A-Hole For Asking Her To Split Rent 50-50,. This is really your other option. Thats what Im thinking. Yeah we understand that, but the bank have said if we proceed with fraud charges they would help us as much as they can. Hes willing to pay off a debt incurred by someone fraudulently and not even address it with that person. The credit card account has been locked also and card has been frozen. Additionally, your boyfriend is showing that he would rather prioritize a thief who has stolen from him multiple times without any remorse or consequences over you, your future together, and your children. Its already affecting you right now. Good luck! This is a slap in your face, asking you to pay half of the expenses. But is this really someone you want to build a life with, having this kind of baggage? You will also have to start cleaning up after this individual if your current bf, FH decides to help them again. He chooses the path of least resistance, and if you agree to postpone your life to protect these jerks, you will confirm to him that YOU are that path. What would you say about a woman who moved into her bfs flat, never paid a bill, and expected it to be okay into perpetuity., Youre being used, he needs to put on his big boy pants and either pay rent or move out and pay it elsewhere. Responsible_Candle86, Full stop, then he needs to pay rent. Just leave. Look, there are exactly two possibilities here: If he's THIS much of a doormat now it will only get worse for you. Because its not just the credit card lowering his score its all the other enquiries that have been made too. This may make me the asshole because I am setting him up for a bad day and putting his feelings before mine. My boyfriend thinks it is completely reasonable for my family to pay these expenses for me. For many in the thread, they questioned what kind of person would comfortably ask their partner's family for such a thing. His response of the relative "going through a hard time" is cowardice and nothing more. Youre NTA, but please see your boyfriend for who he is. I was fine with that. NTA, but involve the greater family in this first, if there is anyone else that wants to rescue the person that did this by paying the bill then thats the only way that person should get out of the responsibility for what they did. AITA for asking my sister's boyfriend to open a jar presuming he would fail? He wouldnt have agreed to let this family member use the card as he knows this person isnt good with money. NTA but you might want to rethink this relationship because it will absolutely impact you if that's his attitude. I will not discussing this with anyone else. Obsessed with travel? https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/features/feature-0014-identity-theft. One man, Ok_Pair_4865, posted on Reddit's 'AITA' subreddit after getting into an argument with his partner to ask if it was wrong to ask him to be tested for autism before they have kids. If the barista gets your order slightly wrong and you don't want to ask them to correct it, sure. Its a tougher time at the moment for us and our relationship. I know he is worried about his mum and how she will react to this when and if she finds out. If your BF pays this bill, it will stay on his credit reports as negative credit for the next 7 YEARS and will negatively affect his credit rating for the ENTIRE TIME it's on his credit reports. The Original Poster (OP), known as Intelligent-Dog2479 on the site, offered a glimpse of the problem in the posts title. I don't usually check my score through all 4 companies, it's redundant. If your guy keeps trying to cover it up, he's going to enable this fraudster fleecing other people--possibly even other family members. Not to mention the credit offers! Boyfriend pays the debt and we wait at least 2 years from the pay off date for his credit to regain some loss. In this episode of reddit top posts & best stories from r/AITA : 00:00 : intro00:37 : story109:57 : story219:09 : story3If Your Story appears in one of our v. His decision affects them both. Ahh yes sorry, my misunderstanding. + Update. 2 hours after the bank opens. They still count against your score. This is red flag galore., This person in no way, shape, or form is a good life companion., He even said that you paying all the bills doesnt matter because with or without him they would still be there. - Reddit Stories, r/ProRevenge | I GOT MY NEIGHBOUR ARRESTED!!! The card is frozen and the account has been locked so no more charges can be made. When you pay off a credit card, your previous missed payments aren't forgotten. They have stolen your chance to start your family together when you planned to. He isn't the one who caused the rift. The fact that there are more credit pulls means that your BFs relative is still attempting to steal more money. But stop asking him to pay rent and just kick his a** out., Hes a freeloading, lazy drinker. I think we can get free annual reports from all major credit bureaus, right? What happens if/when you get married and his relative pulls this same stunt? On what planet is this reasonable? Charges for shopping, news agency, take away food and pubs (gambling) I use credit karma too. OP outlined her thoughts on that argument. And then it will be tied to you as well. My boyfriend and I were confused and angry at this as the bank never informed him. ", "If money is a sticking point for your boyfriend, you guys may be incompatible. You cannot fix how his family treats him and how he is with them. Or 2. That's not fair to you. You said your boyfriend won't even confront the relative. The best, absolute best case scenario is your boyfriend is a weak coward with no spine. Hopefully he will come around. "Mom, you're aware that OP and I found floor plans for our dream house. What about the broker? This is not a man who you can build a life with. Also, if you and your partner live together, how much does each of you make and how do you split your bills? Its an immediate family member and theyve always been in and out of contact. Every time you go to finance something it will come up. But he is already in the middle of several conflicts. this isn't over yet. If your BF lets them get away with all that then I would say he has also let them steal your relationship, as it's hard to see how it could survive all that. NTA - But if he refuses to push the fraud investigation your BF is. But none of that really matters., What matters is he is an adult and adults pay rent where they live. Its such a messy situation. ", "Where I come from, we share our excess wealth with loved ones; we dont send them a bill. My bf has a huge heart and is very giving and generous with his family. You would still have the mortgage and home insurance if he didnt live there., But I bet food has gone up, electricity has gone up. The card was paid off and account was at a 0 balance but apparently there was a pending transaction on the card which forced the account to remain open. His inaction affects your finances and your life plans, so you have every right to get involved. Very good point. Then his sister started asking for money and he refused to say no because she would get upset because she "knew we had it to give". I doubt he'll turn them away because, family. AITA for telling my nephew about family dynamics that his parents didn't want him to know AITA for wanting to meet my "daughter" after giving up my parental rights? Do you really want to drown five grand to pay off a debt you two didn't even charge? He repeats the same line over and over. Is that supposed to fall on your shoulders entirely? All these and bf's reaction is he doesn't want conflict? NAH? Dude is your boyfriend right now, are you willing to delay your life another 2 years because he doesn't have the sack to take care of his business? This will also not allow my boyfriend to secure a bank loan to start up his own business he's been dreaming of starting for a few years, this was the year he planned on. I will suggest option 3. Who would do that just to escape conflicts? If he wants to work for the government or a company that has government contracts, he simply won't be able to. I'd ask him why making his family member uncomfortable and facing consequences for a crime they committed is too much of a conflict for him but dragging you into it, making your future uncertain, and making you unhappy and disappointing you is totally fine and okay in his conflict-avoiding book. You need to think long and hard about whether this is something you want to deal with long term. where AITA for not leaving work to let my kids facetime their dad before his surgery? what his family member did is illegal for a reason and he needs to press charges, or it will follow him around or a decade or more. But as one Redditor outlined in her post on the Am I the A**hole (AITA) subReddit, she couldnt begin to predict the growing pains coming her way. Large deposits are going to be required by rental companies and utilities. This will all go as evidence in our favour in securing the loan. Especially someone who intends to take out a large personal loan around the same time, who cant correctly cancel a line of credit and who fully allows themselves to be defrauded. I checked my score through 4 different banks/credit companies and only 1 reported a low score. This will also not allow my boyfriend to secure a bank loan to start up his own business hes been dreaming of starting for a few years, this was the year he planned on. Is he going to be this milquetoast standing up for your children, too? He expects you to put your life on hold for 2 years and subsequently help pay for his criminal family members debt. - Reddit Stories. 2-3 years is a lot, and it could be longer because life happens. Just because it happens to be your girlfriends mortgage doesnt mean youre entitled to anything back., AITA for thinking that if he wants to live here, and use my computer, and my internet, and leave windows open in the winter and run my gas bill up, and eat my food, he should be paying for it?. Buy he's not going to do anything to prevent it from happening in the future? Welcome back, y'all! She is already paying for it indirectly,in missed opportunities (buying a house) and delayed plans (starting a family). NTA. NTA at all. If you want to be able to buy with your boyfriend, he needs to do this. - Reddit Stories, r/MaliciousCompliance | HOW I GOT 4 FREE PIZZAS!!! By letting the family member get away with it, he is disrespecting your relationship and plans. But he could very well cause a rift in his relationship with you if he doesn't act. I really hope he grows a backbone after reading this. ", "Should I uproot my life and move for him? - Reddit Stories, r/AITA | MY EVIL GIRLFRIEND RUINED MY DAUGHTERS LIFE!!! (r/AmITheAsshole)Source: Altruistic-Leg-4165 on Reddit (link removed because You. Youve collected and arranged the thoughts Ive had already so plainly in front of me. And once you marry, itd be your credit affected as well. You need to really, really think about how this is going to affect your future. The earliest account defaulted/closed in August 2020, I check my credit score about monthly, but didn't notice until February/March when my refinance agent commented on my low score when did the numbers. https://www.oaic.gov.au/privacy/data-breaches/identity-fraud/#:~:text=Report%20the%20fraud&text=Contact%20the%20organisation%20or%20agency,Cyber%20Security%20Centre%20at%20ReportCyber. And that stands for nearly any decision made while yall are together. If it makes him feel better initiating a fraud investigation isn't the same as pressing charges. 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